paranoid park skateboarding

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"The South Wales miners’ strike of 1984-1985 saw the formation of an alliance between gays and lesbians from London and miners in Dulais Valley. In Dancing in Dulais, an initial wariness on the part of the young gays, the miners, and the miners’ families gives way, through sometimes delicate interactions, to a loving and purposeful solidarity. The unembellished videography captures well this fascinating-to-witness union of two disparate yet ultimately kindred groups. The "Pits and Perverts" benefit concert features the Bronski Beat."

"the fraud that goes under the name of love" -- silvia federici

anneboyer:

At the fullest expression of its treatment, breast cancer is total strike: striking hair, striking eyelashes, striking eyebrows, striking skin, striking thinking, striking language, striking feeling, striking vigor, striking appetite, striking eros, striking maternity, striking productivity,…

Short video on Brighton Hospitality Workers’ campaign, which marks their 5th consecutive win!

"Last night we smashed a pipe. Whilst picking up the pieces he accidentally lodged one of the shards into the base of his thumb. He’s spent twelve hours trying to pick the glass out. I know this because I’ve seen the clock strike 11:00 twice from the same position I’ve sat in all day.

In the past twelve hours I’ve also watched his face constantly bathe in the light of his phone. We’ve barely spoken a word to each other and the arrival of his Grindr arrangements have acted as the only distraction.

He incessantly narrates each message he receives. I manage to drown out the sound by losing myself in the swirls of smoke that disappear into the cracks of the ceiling tiles. I begin to count them and think about how desperate I am to leave but I quickly realise I can’t face leaving alone.”

I encourage everyone to take a look at this new blog www.fantasticmrfux.com documenting a gay man’s experiences with drugs and sex. he is also on twitter @fantasticfux

in London.

in London.

Time to stop the privatisation of Brighton Pride

friends and comrades at AntiUK have written a piece on plans to further privatise Brighton Pride.

on news that further measures are being taken to privatise brighton pride.

In the first few years when P and I were first together, we used to go to Brighton Pride in his van. We’d park it a few streets away from the park and go and get fucked and it would be so great. It was one of the first public places we openly acted like a couple. We came from Reading which yeh has a a couple of gay bars and yeh those places were and are very important to us but Brighton pride was a public thing- we held hands and celebrated and it made u feel like things were actually possible and, yeh, real. Well, they were for me. Maybe bcos it was somewhere else, but maybe that’s the point- people coming from all over England from difficult places where it’s a struggle to hold hands and a struggle to be how you want to be. And that’s what pride is and should be- comforting and yet exhilarating, still difficult but with lots of people who you know understand and who u know understand what it means to do what your trying to do together.

Once, in Reading, people threw stuff at us from a car and then drove round the block to go past us again and throw stuff at us again. Being with someone and being open as a gay couple- especially with the age difference we have- is difficult. But Brighton pride made us feel like, well you know, fuck it.

So we moved to Brighton. Which was the best thing we ever did.

But then, suddenly, you had to pay to go in the park. And that was like bullshit, but whatever, fine, bcos, well, u know, fucking dickheads are bound to ruin things and yeh good things only last a while. But we fought it. We told em to fuck off and luckily we had a good solid group of amazing queers around us who also said yeh fuck off making us making us pay and we did our own thing. Which felt important.

But then this year we find out they want to make people pay to get into the street party. And yeh, we’re queer, we understand the problematic bullshit that makes pride this spectacle; but sometimes, when your sitting on the pavement with your bf swigging whiskey and kissing and your like fuck it, it’s a beautiful thing. and no one around u gives a shit. but it still feels important bcos it’s pride and u feel like your making a gesture of some sorts. Well, now they wanna charge us to do that. Well fuck them. And fuck the fact that we don’t fit their model of the right sort of person who should be allowed to do that.

Sometimes rolling in the gutter in glitter hugging someone who u just met but who somehow knows what it means to be the victim of bullshit while your friends look on laughing about how you always take too much and think everything is always profound is the most perfect thing.

So, yeh, I’m drunk, but so what. g scene magazine can fuck itself and so can all the dickheads who wanna take this away from me and my bf. pride is and always has been bullshit. But at least it was bullshit that I felt somehow meant something.

On Holding Hands and Shouting in the Street

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I made dinner for my boyfriend, A, last night. He came round late; he’d been preparing for a job interview, I made him something to eat, we talked about coffee overdoses and plans for the Bank Holiday weekend. We were going to watch a film but as he washed the dishes he asked if I fancied a walk. The sticky, close day had become a warm summery evening, and besides, he’d been inside all day, and felt like he hadn’t seen the world.

"If you hold up your hands and crop that stuff out, you could be in Nice", he said, holding his hands up towards the towers of Cannon St station picked out by a beetroot red sunset, as we walked west along the Thames past the aspic hull of HMS Belfast. Nice try, I thought; if you cut out all the shitty things you could see the good things. "We could almost be on holiday" seemed optimistic, but tourist couples stood having their photos taken in front of Tower Bridge, and we could pretend other people’s holidays were our own. We walked up to the Tate Modern, through warm spitting rain which seemed to be bothering no-one. We stopped there, leaning against the railings, looking over the river at high tide towards St Pauls. As couples on real holiday strolled past, we shared our mixed feelings on Christmas. I can’t get enough of festive good cheer; working for a central London department store until late Christmas Eve for the past 5 years, A begs to differ.

We’ve only been seeing each other a few months. Perhaps this is one of the joys of first meeting someone who makes you daydream in their absence; you collate opinions and tastes, comparing and contrasting. When we met outside the British Museum in the watery spring sunshine for our first date, he told me that, on our way to the Baselitz prints I wanted to see, he’d show me his favourite stairway in London. We stared up at the weird fake Egyptian palm fronds that framed vast eggshell walls, flooded in light from the overhead windows. Huh, I thought. He’s got a favourite stairwell. That’s interesting. “I’d live on it, if I could, in a sleeping bag”, he said, and I knew we’d have a nice afternoon. You collate each other’s weird little opinions because that’s how you get to know a lover, and because you don’t, as yet, have many shared experiences. Well now we do; of the staircases we know and love, and of the man who screamed at us in the street as we turned and walked home from outside the Tate last night.

"Come on, let’s go". I gave A a peck on the lips and held his hand. The rain was getting a little heavier and it was already almost 10. We walked underneath the Millenium Bridge, sadly lacking its mariachi band playing Spanish Flea. Midway through conversation I heard a group of girls behind us, in stage whispers- "ARE THEY HOLDING HANDS?". I let it drift over, but moments later a very loud and aggressive shout came from a man behind us.

"URRRRR", like a 5 year old. "THEY’RE HOLDING FUCKING HANDS!" in a broad London accent. He shouted after us, "fucking mincers!" and a slew of further slurs to add. I flushed red immediately at his vaguely 70s insult (I don’t mince. A minces, but only socially, he doesn’t make a habit of it). I didn’t turn round but I felt eyes burning holes in me. The crowd’s attention was drawn and people stared at us, two twenty something gayboys, holding hands in the street.

There’s a divide between how you think you’d react, how you imagine you’d react when someone says something like that (again), and how you actually do react. There’s a moment’s pause, a lag whilst you realise you’re the subject of the outrage and anger of a complete stranger. The first reaction is fear, fear that you’re in immediate danger; what flashed through my mind wasn’t indignation or defensiveness, but the memory of having my head slammed against coat pegs outside the science block aged 15, or seeing your friend fall between parked cars, his head hitting the curb before someone puts his boot in, or your friend S turning up on your doorstep, ears tattered after having all his earrings ripped out in the street. All those acts of violence are mashed into that moment. You immediately fear a rerun of past violence, and I’m ashamed now that the first thing I did was let go of A’s hand. I made a stupid fake gesture of letting go to scratch the back of my head, as if my spare hand was useless for the job, convincing neither of us. Our conversation had stopped. 15 yards later I asked him if he’d heard that; of course he’d heard that, everyone within 100ft had heard it, heard the disgust in the man’s voice, focused on us.

I can only say how it made me feel, if I’m honest. Perhaps some sharper fags with quicker wits and stronger stomachs know what to shout back to puncture the situation. Perhaps they walk on with some new strength, gripping their lover tighter. But immediately I felt if not shameful, then certainly shamed.

I felt shamed by the disgust in the man’s voice. I felt disciplined by him; the fact he felt empowered to voice that disgust immediately gave him an authority over me, a right to police my behaviour in public. He was right, goddamnit: we were holding hands. Two men, holding hands, right there, in public, for all to see. We’d thought we could get away with it, with being Queer In Public, but he’d spotted us; banged to rights, he’d called us out, and people stared. No-one said anything, and, shamed by who I am, what I’d been caught doing, I read that as tacit approval of our punishment. Of course I did; I’m well aware that society is ok with gays, but tired of having it shoved down their throat (a peculiar little idiom solely reserved for us and our behaviour). It was only a little humiliation but it was humiliating, having your unacceptable behaviour drawn attention to in public. He didn’t hit us, and we didn’t stop. We just walked in opposite directions, him still muttering in disgust, me and A in abrupt silence, everyone else just ignoring it. Maybe my anger is at some displaced privilege I feel; but that shows just how deep heterosexual policing is. Despite being a white, cis, able-bodied young male, the tip of the social pyramid, I’m still subject to attack for behaving in a way that’s inappropriate to my gender in public. Part of me wants to hold all heterosexuals responsible; despite the kind words and sympathies of friends, I can’t help but feel they’re complicit in the idea that heterosexuality is the norm, the default, the way the world looks. I feel like they’re responsible in the same way I’m responsible for violence against women every time I remain silent in a group of men when a sexist joke is told, because I don’t want to forfeit my benefits of being a man. This bitterness and anger at all heterosexuals is probably wildly unfair, but I still feel it keenly.  

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I know it wasn’t a big thing that happened. I’ve had worse, and much, much worse happens to queers and trans people every day right across the city. But I came out 14 years ago, half my lifetime ago, and in all honesty I’d have hoped the sense of anger, humiliation and shame at being screamed at for being gay would have worn off in that time. It makes me wonder whether I honestly could say to a teenage bullying victim “it gets better”. This is one incident in a spectrum of incidents that will not cease for me, but last night was the one which happened at a time in my life where I feel safe and secure enough in myself to say at last “That hurt me. I’m tired of this shit”.

I wanted to put down in words what happened because, whilst the guy who shouted has probably forgotten he even saw us last night, when A got up for work at 5am this morning I lay awake till 7 just thinking about it, running through what he said over and over. And I’ll think about his voice again the next time I’m out in public and A makes me laugh and I want to hold his hand, or when he meets me from my office and wants a kiss hello. That’s the point of policing and punishing; it’s meant to get inside your head, so that next time you’re tempted to commit an offence, you think twice. As a gay person, when I feel love in public, I think twice. I check my behaviour, I check my environment. When I see young straight couples in love, kissing by the river, I get a taint of bitterness. When I feel affection, I also feel danger. That’s why these stupid, minor incidents hurt so much: they poison love.

Here is a video of an event that aims to create a dialogue around current issues of drug use and sex amongst gay men today. Events like this are really worthwhile considering that although historically gay male sexual practices have been and are demonised through forms of homophobia based on health-scares, bodily irresponsibility, and supposed issues with intimacy, HIV and STD rates are on the increase, and substance misuse is still a massive problem for us. Events like this are starting to find that balance between addressing the issues that surround sex and drugs that are threatening our lives and communities whilst combating the homophobia that hopes to moderate the dialogue surrounding these issues so that they can be used against us. The next event is here.

'Let's Talk About Gay Sex & Drugs' is an open communication forum for all gay men living in London, to come talk about how they perceive sex and drugs in the modern capital. No judgement, an event designed simply to listen to each other’s voices.

Today is the fifteenth anniversary of the bombing of the Admiral Duncan gay pub on Old Compton Street, London. Solidarity with all victims of homophobic violence.

Today is the fifteenth anniversary of the bombing of the Admiral Duncan gay pub on Old Compton Street, London. Solidarity with all victims of homophobic violence.

Randy Harrison - Ghosts (of Gay Sex in the ’70s)

tribute to jose esteban munoz (via Dennis Cooper’s blog)